Making the difficult choice to get divorced is a struggle enough as it is. However, when you throw kids into the equation, it can get even more difficult to navigate the process. As a parent, it’s important that you take the correct measures in order to protect their delicate emotions.
Some experts argue that getting divorced is much better than the alternative of staying together and exhibiting a dysfunctional relationship. Despite whether your choice to end your marriage is the right choice or not, there are still unavoidable emotional repercussions involving your kids.
Here are some of the best tips for making the often bumpy journey of divorce easier on your child’s emotions.
Keep The Peace
When deciding who will have custody, it’s easy to feel animosity towards the other parent. Emotions can run high, and it’s easy to find yourself angry. However, if you show anger towards your ex, it can lead to your child developing feelings of self-blame and doubt.
Even though it can be a challenge, it’s important to remain amicable in front of your children. If you disagree on something, it’s best to leave it talked about when the child isn’t there, or by email. Above all, strive to agree to disagree whenever possible! You’ll thank yourself for it.
Be Honest With Your Children
Many parents think that hiding the truth from their children is the best way to protect them. However, the truth is that you’ll only end up hurting them more. You should always try to be as honest as you can with them without trying to sugarcoat the truth.
When they ask questions, be honest with them in a way that they can understand. You may not be able to divulge all of the information, but you can divulge the basics of what’s going on. You can calmly explain that mommy and daddy aren’t together anymore, but that you’re going to do your best to keep things as normal as possible.
On that note, it’s important to mention the importance of consistency. Make sure that you try to keep up with routines as much as you can. Even though it may not always be easy to keep up with the same traditions as when you were still in a marriage, it’s important to try to keep up with routine when possible.
Continue taking them to their dance classes or sports. Enforce the same rules that you enforced when you were still a family living together. Consistency makes kids feel safe even during uncertain times.
Children need a sense of regularity and routine to make them feel like their world isn’t turned upside down.